THIS IS A SAFE SPACE. LETS TALK ABOUT SEXUAL ASSAULT & SEXUAL HARASSMENT.

Advice, awareness, community, Life, relationships

Anna Williams

So are we going to talk about this sexual assault epidemic sweeping our society?

Not that this is the first season that we have heard of the horrendous stories, from the childhood of adult stars as well as the present day. Sexual assault/harassment  are these things no one seems to want to discuss. It is truly as ugly as it sounds. The shit is not okay. Let’s talk though.

I have read stories, watched interviews from victims, the accused, along with their significant others. It has been unbelievable the incidents that are now coming out and the victims have found the strength to speak up.

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My Thoughts:

  • Why do we blame the victim?

I have heard conversations and scrolled through many posts on social media placing the blame on the victims and that they are responsible for actions they did or did not take. How is the victim responsible? These men and women who are victims did not ask to be violated in a sexual matter nor did they request to be harassed. I’m sure the experiences were uncomfortable as fuck. Being a teenager or a person interviewing for a position or even auditioning for a role. You aren’t always aware of your surroundings or whether this is or isn’t “protocol.” Victims battle fear. Fear exist after finding out something was done to you that you didn’t deserve and you may jeopardize a lot by speaking out on this person. Fear is wanting to tell someone about the things that took place but you don’t know if they will believe you because the perp has “power” or friends in high places.

  • Did anyone forget that we have a president who is also alleged of sexual harassment?

This proves the type of society we are living in. Rape culture is alive, present, and accepted in this country. However, that still does not make it legal or tolerable. Our country is being ran by an arrogant, racist white male who sexualizes and continuously makes lewd remarks about women.

 

  • Who are the perpetrators?

From the stories I have listened to, there have been on many occasions where the victim was faced by the accused and possibly an additional person (who works with the perp). This addition could be the director, casting coach, assistant, co-worker,boss, and family members or friends in close proximity who witnessed these acts.

Those who sit around witnessing these cruel acts rather become accomplices then risk their jobs by speaking up when they see something that is wrong. You are the perpetrators.

Watch and listen to Thandie Newtons story.  Thandie’s Story

Victims should feel sAfe to speak their truth with no shame

What Can We Do?

Though Hollywood is on the forefront currently as perps began to surface with victims speaking out about sexual assault and sexual harassment experiences they have had. This take place at our jobs, in college, when we go out, in our relationships, and we must be aware of the signs and speak up with no fear. As we can see this not only happens to women but men as well. See something, say something. Shame on those who stood on the sideline and watched  the power players use and abuse other human beings for their own gratification. Do not shame or belittle someone who found the strength within themselves to share their story. Allow them to speak their truth. We must understand that this issue is not going away anytime soon its been around for decades. We must first fight for charges to be filed, convictions to be made, and for our justice system to be fair and not spare the rod because the perp is a person of power. No matter our social class honey we all are human and should be afforded the same equal rights and be treated fairly.

I have listed below some really great links for you to do more, say more, and think more.

End Sexual Violence Organization

Signs of Sexual Harassment in the Workplace

Know Your Rights: Sexual Harassment and Sexual Assault under Title IX

#METOO

END SEX ABUSE

Minimum List of those Accused:

Charlie Rose, Ryan Seacrest, Oliver Stone, Sylvester Stallone, Al Franken, Richard Dreyfuss, Louis C.K., John Travolta, Kevin Spacey, Charlie Sheen, Russell Simmons, Andy Dick, Benny Medina, John Singleton, Harvey Weinstien, and the list goes on. 

 

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The Power of Sistahood (Open Letter to My Lost Sistas)

Advice, Family, Friends, Happiness, self

My sista,

How dare you engage in this undignified competition to merely be one step higher than your sista? I’m finding it beyond belief that we are unable to exist peacefully and positively side by side. Maybe you misplaced the vision somewhere around the time you decided to trade in your teamwork makes the dream work mindset, for your new faux furs, ass shots and selfish ways.

My sista,

Let me be the Queen to remind you that WE can win together.

The Power of Sistahood is often under estimated. Do you know why?  Most times we fall short of the worlds expectations and honey those unrealistic standards are not our reality. Maybe reality tv is what they have in mind. That shit does not  reflect much of a sistahood nowadays. Remember when Big Mama would say “it’s the sign of the times.” 

My sista, 

It is time. Your sistas. Me. Your sista, have witnessed you degrade your self worth one time too many.   Our ancestors will rise from their graves in indignation of you having served up your values on platter to the wolves.  

Just in case you are not as intellectual as you used to be, meaning, you have dumbed down your resume for them folks, see, them folks don’t give a shit about you, them folk got you cooning, sista you have been the real joke. 

The moment when you choke off the fumes from that green grass they handed your ass, from the other side, which turned out to be blood on your hands, so filled with pride 

My sista, 

I know you may feel so high up, you could care less about your roots. But I won’t stop writing you letters and sending you our prayers.

To Come back, You can always come back 

Your loving sista, 

Anna Williams 

 

Photo cred: by my talented sista  Melissa (link below)

Melissa Photography Site

Special thanks to a few of my dazzling Sista Queens from our tribe in the featured image:

Jasmin, Sandrine, Melissa, Shameka, Vanessa, and Daryl. ​

Here is an audio of this poem. Hope you love the delivery: 

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Work Life Struggles…

Advice, Family, Friends, Happiness, Life, Love, Marriage, Parenting, relationships

Does anyone know what  “Work Life Struggles” are?

  • When your place of employment is on your list of top 3 things you hate.
  • You do your best to arrive to work on time but you still arrive late.
  • You hate going there but you have a life full of responsibilities so you have to endure.
  • You know your potential is for beyond the position you currently hold so you give 210% just because you have mastered that title.( & you don’t want anyone in your face saying you don’t do enough)
  • You hate your job but every morning you come in with a smile on your face just to get you through the day but you run out  as soon your shift is up.
  • Having to dull your shine because opportunity Is not there.
  •  Hating your job so much to the point you don’t want your lazy coworkers saying anything to you.
  • When you take your lunch breaks and don’t want to come back

 

  Many of us have all experienced this in life from job to job. Personally, I am an artist. Creativity and an eagerness for more knowledge is my strength. Wherever I go in life I set  goals with time frames. I try to always meet the due date of each goal. I never plan to be just a worker at the bottom of the corporate web(Yeah it’s not a ladder anymore). Any position that I am, I master that and I get hungry for growth. Even when I hate a job I still love opportunities to grow. I would never work for a company that has no growth opportunities. If I feel like I am being kept still due to the lack of management wanting to train. I will get bored and move on through prayer and faith.

 

 How to deal with Work Life Struggles:

  • Choosing the right prayer for each and everyday(know that this situation is temporary)
  • Having at least one great friend at work who helps you get through your days
  • Know you are potential and God will move you into your passion (You have to listen to him)
  • Don’t be complacent CHANGE is always possible
  • Be sure to always do your best. No matter how you feel about the job. If you hate it that much quit.  (Your customers and clients should not have to deal with your attitude because you hate your job lol)
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How do you deal with Work Life Struggles? Comment and let me know.

 

Don’t forget. Keeping it pretty, is keeping it positive!

-Anna